dilemma...female related

psych said:

Not really... I mean I want to smack an ax in the face of drivers that don't turn there turn signal on. Doesn't mean I hate people...Dying is easy cause living is hard. Don't base life on "happiness". Thats a small component. It is good that you came to ask advice before acting. We may prevent you from making a huge mistake or help you make the right choice.

You are a guy, you wanna fuck and women (because of societies "standards" as well as nature) want to be attractive. Being distracted doesn't mean anything. Go jerk off and then after see if you really want to be with her.

A lil story big man. I work with a waitress at the club who is like a hot goth Marylin Monroe. She wants me bad and I'm sure would fuck like a bull. She's funny and we have alot of things in common and interests. BUT...on certain issues that come up in conversations we butt heads. We have different attitudes on major life things. I couldn't see her with my self and still hitting the goals I want in life. Beauty fades and tits sag, asses go flat, but tthe person stays....thats the person you stay with. She also has a fuckin crazy family and a shit load of debt. LOL

If it's more than just physical then you need to ponder it. If the girl you are with is abusive, there are unhealthy habits (not her but in the relationship), you don't see you guys getting married or even going through major life situations together, lack of trust/respect, then really think about it. These are serious things to consider.

Shit you may need to leave the one girl and just spend time alone working on yourself. I get more people in detox who hop from one relationship to the next without ever settling emotional problems from the previous partner. All that does is lead to a vicious cycle of abuse/neglect/trauma, and puts the other person in the position to do damage control on something they didn't do.

You and every person from the beginning of time till the end will get a thought to stray or leave. An impulse or passion falls away and dies. But for the moment it burns bright and is all consuming. Like a fire it will pass....Zeno of Athens.

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mikeystrong said:

Psych.. ur obviously a good dude, Big D is obviously not. He wont take your advice. Im done with this thread, im actualy ashamed in myself for even paying this highschool girl drama shit any attention.

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psych said:

If you dont see marriage then tell her and let her go. Don't waste hers and yours time. Just sit down and talk but lay it all out. Sounds like you two need to have a talk about the future, aka Negotiation time!

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lycan Venom said:

Well, put your current relationship on a freeze... Tell her the girl thing, I need some space and time, it's not you, it's me, I need personal growth and to find myself. lol..

Then go tap that ass until it isn't fun anymore and then decide to go after a knew girl you see at the market or bar.

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rangerjockey said:

Big "D" you answered your own question....see this old fling and slow and go with this new one....you are not breaking any laws,,, your single and so are many girls. You don't think ladies date multiple dudes til they find one they want to settle with? YES!! and they get free dinners!! be single and date.. enjoy it... some day it stops.

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