Been there. Been clean for seven years. I also work at a psychiatric facility where wew deal with alot of addiction so I know a bit about it. Look doz, it sounds to me like you are starting to realize that you just can't drink at all!! At least I hope you are, because that is what I am hearing. You are what is known as a binge drinker. In your case a serious ass binge drinker. You say the problem starts when you pick up the first drink; then the answer is to not pick it up, period!
The advice that people have given you is spot on. People, places and things have fucked up the best laid plans of many a man trying to stay clean. You need to avoid those people, places and things that tempt you to drink at all costs. It is one of the first, and most important things you can do to start staying clean.
I'm personally not a big fan of 12 step meetings because I, like you, have had more than a few things happen to me at meetings that haver left a bad taste in my mouth. That is not to say that you should disregard them all together. There is plenty of solid knowledge you can pick up there on how to live a happy sober life, you just have to take what you need from them and disregard the rest.
As far as the medication that one of the posters had mentioned: the "little gems" that were referred to are probably naltrexone. It is supposed to help with cravings from alcohol and several other drugs, although it never helped me much. Everyone responds to medications a bit differently so don't take my experience as truth. Antabuse is also a medication for alcoholism, if you take it and drink, you will puke your guts up. The trick is that you have to take it to have it work! It is probably not applicable to you however; it is usually reserved for pretty hardcore drunks. The medication you were given at the hospital for your alcohol withdrawal (DT's) was probably librium or some other benzo like ativan.
As far as the DT's go, dude, do not fuck around with them. DT's can, and do, kill people. they can also cause seizures. I lost a good friend to alcohol withdrawal, and have gone through it myself numerous times, like you said it sucks!!! Since you haver gotten to the point where you suffer from withdrawal when you stop binging, you will continue to suffer from withdrawal every time you binge.
I wish you the best of luck with staying clean!!!! I wish i had better advice for you but at the end of the day, the best way to not get drunk is to not drink. Please, please seek medical help if you do binge again, although I pray to god that you don't! Also, please feel free to PM me if you have any questions or anything.
